Last week Wednesday night I met someone.
Not just anyone.
I met him.
He has a fabulous smile. He has a soft demeanor, a more than pleasant personality and eyes that gleam when they look at me. He can carry on a conversation and can and does listen intently. He understands the value of communication and even moreso the purpose or lack of, of silence. He is a parent - both a father and a dad. He loves his children and he loves your children. He has a heart and a soul.
He is a good man. Not the Good Man, Charlie Brown type. But a truly genuine, decent man.
He gives me faith. He gives me hope.
Thank you RUR...I could have never imagined that I would meet someone like you. I look forward to getting to know you better. I look forward to many todays and tomorrows...
Tuesday, November 10, 2009
Tuesday, November 3, 2009
Colorado
Many months ago, in my madness of purchasing off the auction, I purchased a condo for a week in Keystone Colorado. I had choice of one week during the months of January or February. Honestly, the Saturday - Saturday stay wouldn't have been my first choice since it doesn't bode well with my parenting schedule, but such is life.
When I purchased the condo, which sleeps six, I had talked about it with friends beforehand. I've had enough vacations gone awry as well as auction purchases that I thought were a good idea only to find them be more of a headache or stressful than I imagined.
I've also had too many vacations that I have planned to include a guy that I was dating at the time. Only to find that I didn't want to be dating them anymore or after the fact how much more fun I would have had without them. So this vacation, I will not invite anyone that I am dating or anyone that would want to date me. Really, I'm not that conceited, but I don't want to deal with being with someone for a week that isn't really interested in skiing and Colorado!
Finding six people who have the time and financial means has proven quite the challenge. Much more than I would have anticipated. I thought between the three of us that are going, we could have others or friends interested in going, not the case. TS had a couple that have backed out.
So as odd as it may seem, through the dating site, I was talking to someone that had lived in Summit County and was interested in skiing. We actually met a few weeks back for the sole purpose of the trip. I'm pretty sure he's not interested in dating me. I even suggested if he had a friend or two interested, it may be better. Kind of like being back in college for a week of co-habitating only to crash but everyone does their own thing. What better is that? Me not having to be responsible for everyone? He actually seems pretty normal and I'm hoping that it works out. He said that he has a friend interested in going, but hasn't confirmed.
I'm asking for half of the money for the week as a non-refundable deposit ($100). I really don't think $200 for a week at the base of Keystone is that unaffordable. It's the rest of the trip that is going to get costly - transportation, skiing, etc. We are considering driving out so we don't have to fly to Denver and then rent a car. We also won't have to worry about luggage and renting skis. I also love the idea of packing food for the trip as well! I just wonder how it's all going to come together. JN isn't sure she wants to drive out, opting to fly unless we stay in a hotel each night for the drive, which TS and I aren't interested in planning. I can only hope that the tension for a week is far less than the three of us in Chicago. I'm actually looking forward to some testosterone to add to the mix. TS suggested that we allow people to come along for only $100 for the condo, but I'm not that desperate to have more people take advantage of the trip! Besides, if they can't afford the extra $100, they likely can't afford skiing or their own entertainment either! I'm not about to sign up to be someone's personal entertainer too!
When I purchased the condo, which sleeps six, I had talked about it with friends beforehand. I've had enough vacations gone awry as well as auction purchases that I thought were a good idea only to find them be more of a headache or stressful than I imagined.
I've also had too many vacations that I have planned to include a guy that I was dating at the time. Only to find that I didn't want to be dating them anymore or after the fact how much more fun I would have had without them. So this vacation, I will not invite anyone that I am dating or anyone that would want to date me. Really, I'm not that conceited, but I don't want to deal with being with someone for a week that isn't really interested in skiing and Colorado!
Finding six people who have the time and financial means has proven quite the challenge. Much more than I would have anticipated. I thought between the three of us that are going, we could have others or friends interested in going, not the case. TS had a couple that have backed out.
So as odd as it may seem, through the dating site, I was talking to someone that had lived in Summit County and was interested in skiing. We actually met a few weeks back for the sole purpose of the trip. I'm pretty sure he's not interested in dating me. I even suggested if he had a friend or two interested, it may be better. Kind of like being back in college for a week of co-habitating only to crash but everyone does their own thing. What better is that? Me not having to be responsible for everyone? He actually seems pretty normal and I'm hoping that it works out. He said that he has a friend interested in going, but hasn't confirmed.
I'm asking for half of the money for the week as a non-refundable deposit ($100). I really don't think $200 for a week at the base of Keystone is that unaffordable. It's the rest of the trip that is going to get costly - transportation, skiing, etc. We are considering driving out so we don't have to fly to Denver and then rent a car. We also won't have to worry about luggage and renting skis. I also love the idea of packing food for the trip as well! I just wonder how it's all going to come together. JN isn't sure she wants to drive out, opting to fly unless we stay in a hotel each night for the drive, which TS and I aren't interested in planning. I can only hope that the tension for a week is far less than the three of us in Chicago. I'm actually looking forward to some testosterone to add to the mix. TS suggested that we allow people to come along for only $100 for the condo, but I'm not that desperate to have more people take advantage of the trip! Besides, if they can't afford the extra $100, they likely can't afford skiing or their own entertainment either! I'm not about to sign up to be someone's personal entertainer too!
Sick Leave
I am for the most part, very healthy. I have no complaints. I'm not a hypochondriac. While I really dislike the doctor, I do go for my yearly physical and occasionally go to the doctor when I have certain concerns.
With my employment, I earn two hours of sick leave a week. We can take two consecutive days of sick leave without question. Anything more and a doctor's note is required. I have friends who will take "mental health" sick days. I used to think that by taking one of these days, then I would get sick. Karma.
I have over the past couple years begun to realize that I earn my sick leave. If and when I leave my employer, I will lose my sick leave. I anticipate that when I leave, I will have some doctor's note that will justify my mental illness leave of many months prior to my actual termination date. While I'm not big on the lying and deception, I have tried to embrace the idea of using my sick leave intermittently. I stopped using my personal time for doctor appointments and started using sick time. I will occasionally take a mental health day and find myself sleeping in or cleaning the house. Things that I don't want to waste my weekends on.
I've also found that occasionally, I look for small medical reasons to use my sick leave. I know that this may sound odd, but it's the truth. Granted if I wanted to perfect myself, I could have surgery to make myself prettier. I could have a boob job to enhance my feminine qualities - however I have many reasons for not doing this: 1) My mom had a single mastectomy for breast cancer and never had reconstructive surgery, 2) God and my parents made me - I am who I am, 3) Being physically active I prefer to not have to wear the over the shoulder boulder holder or have chronic sore back and 4) I really prefer that men look at my eyes than my chest (one can hope, right?). I could also have a nose job. But like the reasons for not having a boob job, I haven't done that. I'm not really into cosmetic surgery, per se.
Having said that, I did have my tonsillectomy back when I was married - guessing at least seven years ago. I have absolutely no regrets - other than I wish I had done it sooner. I had reconstructive knee surgery in 2000 - again no regrets, wish I had done it sooner. So as I mentioned, I occasionally wonder what other small thing I can do to take some time off work and better myself.
My latest...I have Varicose Veins. I didn't know that's what they were. And when I work out, they get more intense and severe. I don't know how long I have had them and honestly I thought there was only one, well I guess I only took notice of the one. I have them on both legs. This summer, when I wore more dresses, I've had people question me about them. No one questions the long scar on my leg from my surgery, but they point out the purplish discolored looking bruise. I mentioned it at my recent physical and was referred to a specialist.
A few weeks ago I went to the specialist and he scheduled an ultrasound. I have never met someone who spoke so fast, I had difficulty understanding the doctor. I really have no idea what the procedure is. I went and had the ultrasound completed and learned that in fact the blood is not flowing the way that it should and fortunately I don't have any clots. The doctor informed me that I should call my insurance and that the procedure would be in the "high deductible" range and likely have a $1000 deductible. I found this odd since with my insurance I can't recall ever having a deductible but I figured this might be considered cosmetic. He then went on to say that while they had to charge the deductible if I wrote a letter that I couldn't pay, they would waive the charge. Odd.
I called my insurance company and talked to someone about the potential procedure. Since the doctor is "in network" the procedure is covered 100% and I don't have a deductible. Fabulous. So my gift to myself for post birthday, Endovenous Laser Treatment of the Saphenous Vein (EVLT). I could have had it done ON my birthday, but decided maybe if my son isn't with me for the weekend before to actually celebrate my birthday - then maybe a few days of sick leave and recovery time would be needed!
The doctor suggested that I could do both legs at the same time. But I figure I'll try one at a time and see how it goes before subjecting my other leg. Afterall, that's what I did with my RK eye surgery - and never had the other eye done.
With my employment, I earn two hours of sick leave a week. We can take two consecutive days of sick leave without question. Anything more and a doctor's note is required. I have friends who will take "mental health" sick days. I used to think that by taking one of these days, then I would get sick. Karma.
I have over the past couple years begun to realize that I earn my sick leave. If and when I leave my employer, I will lose my sick leave. I anticipate that when I leave, I will have some doctor's note that will justify my mental illness leave of many months prior to my actual termination date. While I'm not big on the lying and deception, I have tried to embrace the idea of using my sick leave intermittently. I stopped using my personal time for doctor appointments and started using sick time. I will occasionally take a mental health day and find myself sleeping in or cleaning the house. Things that I don't want to waste my weekends on.
I've also found that occasionally, I look for small medical reasons to use my sick leave. I know that this may sound odd, but it's the truth. Granted if I wanted to perfect myself, I could have surgery to make myself prettier. I could have a boob job to enhance my feminine qualities - however I have many reasons for not doing this: 1) My mom had a single mastectomy for breast cancer and never had reconstructive surgery, 2) God and my parents made me - I am who I am, 3) Being physically active I prefer to not have to wear the over the shoulder boulder holder or have chronic sore back and 4) I really prefer that men look at my eyes than my chest (one can hope, right?). I could also have a nose job. But like the reasons for not having a boob job, I haven't done that. I'm not really into cosmetic surgery, per se.
Having said that, I did have my tonsillectomy back when I was married - guessing at least seven years ago. I have absolutely no regrets - other than I wish I had done it sooner. I had reconstructive knee surgery in 2000 - again no regrets, wish I had done it sooner. So as I mentioned, I occasionally wonder what other small thing I can do to take some time off work and better myself.
My latest...I have Varicose Veins. I didn't know that's what they were. And when I work out, they get more intense and severe. I don't know how long I have had them and honestly I thought there was only one, well I guess I only took notice of the one. I have them on both legs. This summer, when I wore more dresses, I've had people question me about them. No one questions the long scar on my leg from my surgery, but they point out the purplish discolored looking bruise. I mentioned it at my recent physical and was referred to a specialist.
A few weeks ago I went to the specialist and he scheduled an ultrasound. I have never met someone who spoke so fast, I had difficulty understanding the doctor. I really have no idea what the procedure is. I went and had the ultrasound completed and learned that in fact the blood is not flowing the way that it should and fortunately I don't have any clots. The doctor informed me that I should call my insurance and that the procedure would be in the "high deductible" range and likely have a $1000 deductible. I found this odd since with my insurance I can't recall ever having a deductible but I figured this might be considered cosmetic. He then went on to say that while they had to charge the deductible if I wrote a letter that I couldn't pay, they would waive the charge. Odd.
I called my insurance company and talked to someone about the potential procedure. Since the doctor is "in network" the procedure is covered 100% and I don't have a deductible. Fabulous. So my gift to myself for post birthday, Endovenous Laser Treatment of the Saphenous Vein (EVLT). I could have had it done ON my birthday, but decided maybe if my son isn't with me for the weekend before to actually celebrate my birthday - then maybe a few days of sick leave and recovery time would be needed!
The doctor suggested that I could do both legs at the same time. But I figure I'll try one at a time and see how it goes before subjecting my other leg. Afterall, that's what I did with my RK eye surgery - and never had the other eye done.
35th Birthday
I rarely make a big deal about my birthday. This birthday, my 35th is no more monumental than the next. Regardless that I will be that much closer to 40 than to 30. Once, when I turned 30, I actually had plans to celebrate. Needless to say, two days prior my son's dad made it clear to me that his hunting took precedence. Therefore, my son was left to find his own sleeping arrangements for my birthday evening by making his own plans at school. I was mortified when I learned that his dad had encouraged him to do such thing.
Since then, I no longer make plans for my birthday. I prepare that with little to no notice, my son's dad will decide he's going out of town for up to 10 days to "deer hunt" although I have no recollection in the past decade that he's actually killed or even shot at a single dear during that time.
In years past I seem to be fixated on my bathroom as birthday presents to myself. One year I think I remodeled the bathroom while I was recovering from my tonsillectomy around my birthday. Another year I had my tub refurbished or painted or what have you - and by the way it looked amazing! Last year I had a new one piece surround installed. I'm running out of things to do with my one and only bathroom. It really could use a new look and a fresh coat of paint, but the reality, I love the color.
For years, at least eight of the ten that I've lived in my house, I've wanted to put an additional bathroom in my house. I would love to add a bathroom in the basement; however, my plumber friend refuses to do it and I haven't been motivated enough to find someone interested or able to give me a quote. My framing in my house is steel. I would need an up flush. Even this morning I was thinking about the addition of a bathroom. The reality, I don't need another bathroom, I want another bathroom.
This morning I received a call from a potential client. She had been completely misinformed about numerous things - it's amazing how much incorrect insight people can offer about things that they know nothing about! I even found myself laughing at some of the absurd things she had come to believe were true but fortunately she questioned to verify. In the midst of her questions she informed me that there were 14 years between she and her husband and that he was a "retired" plumber. I'm sure I crossed every line possible by saying that I was just considering a second bathroom.
Karma. That's my story and I'm sticking to it. Karma. Maybe just maybe...yeah, probably not. But it is that time of year - my birthday!
Since then, I no longer make plans for my birthday. I prepare that with little to no notice, my son's dad will decide he's going out of town for up to 10 days to "deer hunt" although I have no recollection in the past decade that he's actually killed or even shot at a single dear during that time.
In years past I seem to be fixated on my bathroom as birthday presents to myself. One year I think I remodeled the bathroom while I was recovering from my tonsillectomy around my birthday. Another year I had my tub refurbished or painted or what have you - and by the way it looked amazing! Last year I had a new one piece surround installed. I'm running out of things to do with my one and only bathroom. It really could use a new look and a fresh coat of paint, but the reality, I love the color.
For years, at least eight of the ten that I've lived in my house, I've wanted to put an additional bathroom in my house. I would love to add a bathroom in the basement; however, my plumber friend refuses to do it and I haven't been motivated enough to find someone interested or able to give me a quote. My framing in my house is steel. I would need an up flush. Even this morning I was thinking about the addition of a bathroom. The reality, I don't need another bathroom, I want another bathroom.
This morning I received a call from a potential client. She had been completely misinformed about numerous things - it's amazing how much incorrect insight people can offer about things that they know nothing about! I even found myself laughing at some of the absurd things she had come to believe were true but fortunately she questioned to verify. In the midst of her questions she informed me that there were 14 years between she and her husband and that he was a "retired" plumber. I'm sure I crossed every line possible by saying that I was just considering a second bathroom.
Karma. That's my story and I'm sticking to it. Karma. Maybe just maybe...yeah, probably not. But it is that time of year - my birthday!
Best Halloween Costume...EVER
I was just speaking with JA and she shared with me the best Halloween costume ever. Apparently her co-worker received a knock on her door, about an hour after trick or treaters had ceased.
She opened the door to a 14 year old teenage boy all dressed in red.
He said, "I'm your period. Sorry I'm late."
She opened the door to a 14 year old teenage boy all dressed in red.
He said, "I'm your period. Sorry I'm late."
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